Frankl is a man who lost his entire family and almost lost his own life in the Nazi concentration camps. Going through that extremely brutal experience he developed the philosophy of RESPONSE-ABILITY – the ability to choose your response to any given circumstances.
We all have experienced things which we wish never happened. But the fact is just a few among us went through the same level of horror that Viktor Frankl went through. And if he could choose his attitude in his situation, surely we can choose our responses too. No?
Do not be a victim to the range of trivial things that we can choose to let bother us. Be the owner of your attitude. Just look around you and think about all the things for which you can be grateful. Any situation has a positive side of it. Find it.
"Man's search for meaning is the primary motivation in his life and not a 'secondary rationalization' of institutional drives. This meaning is unique and specific in that it must and can be fulfilled by him alone: only then does it achieve a significance which will satisfy his own will to meaning" Frankl is pointing to the fundamental need for humans to find a framework for their existence that goes beyond meeting their physical, emotional and mental needs. We are searching for overarching philosophy to understand and explain our experiences, a framework that is essentially spiritual. Finding such a framework not only brings meaning to our lives, but also provides a pathway for growth, a pathway that shows us a way of becoming all we can become through the expression of our soul motivations.
And this one I like in particular: “Don’t aim at success – the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one’s personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself… Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it. I want you to listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge. Then you will live to see that in the long-run – in the long-run, I say! – success will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think about it.”
Waw! What a stress release! We so often spend time asking what we can get out of a situation instead of asking what we can give. Sharing my personal experience: I feel stressed when I start focus on just MY outcome. As soon I get out of my set of fears/worries and start thinking about what I can do for others, what I can give, my stress disappears. It is amazing!
Great advice here: Stop ‘trying” to be successful. Stop putting all your energy on the “prize”. Get back to your authentic self and surrender yourself to the deeper meaning of your actions.
There are much more wisdom in this book than I could present here. Join us on the 9th of March in our Book Group to discuss “Man’s search for meaning”, share your thoughts and inspirations and create steps to put your learning into practise. Sign up here: http://www.opendayscoachingclub.com/calendar (scroll to 9th March)