"All things are created twice. There is a mental or first creation, and a physical or second creation, to all things" - Stephen R.Covey
Creating your vision starts from the principle that all things are created twice. The first act of creation is mental and the second is physical. We assume responsibility for the first creation and if we do not develop self-awareness, by default, we empower other people and external circumstances to shape our reality. We need to see clearly in our minds what we want to create within our family, relationships, business or work environment, in our personal development and in our life.
When you want to go for vacation, you know what you want from it. Before planting your garden, you know how you'd like it to be. The ability to create a vision is present. It is about being conscious and fully aware of what you want to create or achieve.
Mental Rehearsal is an exercise, that can be found in the Tools section, to help you in visualisation. It is commonly used to visualise performance by creating it first in your mind and performing when you are ready. Mental rehearsal allows you to re-create high levels of achievement more regularly while actually performing. This simple Empowering Morning Exercise, that is also in the website, is a daily ritual to help you envision how you want your day to be before starting it.
Sometimes, we reactively live the scripts handed to us by family, associates and society in general due to our conditioning. When we allow people's agendas to shape our reality, we give up our sense of agency over our own life. Script de-scripting is a process of becoming aware. By being self-aware and using your imagination and conscience, you can examine your deepest values. You can realise that the script you are acting on is not in harmony with those values that you hold dear. You can recognise that your life is not the product of your own first creation but a result of external circumstances and other people's vision.
Where do you put most of your energy? Where is your focus most of the time? Make a distinction between spending time on something and putting your energy on something. You may spend all your time writing a thesis yet at the same time you put a lot of energy into worrying about finding a job. You may spend most of your time in the office but at the same time put all your energy in a long-term conflict between you and a colleague.
What is your life’s center? It is often much easier to recognise the center in someone else's life than see it in your own. You probably know someone who puts making money ahead of everything else or someone whose energy is devoted to justifying his or her position in an ongoing negative relationship. Some people make their partners or ex-partners, friends or enemies the center of their life. For some, life revolves around their children, wealth, career, possessions, or pleasures.
But herein lies the key. Whatever is at the center of our life will be the source of our security, guidance, wisdom and power. If our center relies on something external, it has no intrinsic security. Look and see beyond your behaviour and into the center that creates it. The ideal is to create one clear center from which you consistently derive a high degree of security, guidance, wisdom and power.
Ask yourself: What are values? What are principles? To begin with the end in mind means that you approach your roles in different aspects of your life with clear values and directions present and to begin each day with those values firmly in mind. When challenges come, you can make decisions based on those values and act with integrity. Instead of reacting to the emotion or circumstance, you can be truly proactive and values driven, because your values are clear.
To really clarify your values you may need 2-3 sessions with a professional coach who will ask you deep and thought-provoking questions based on your life experience. To have a first glance at your personal values, try the exercise on Values Elicitation that we offer in our Tools section.
The ideas from this article are taken from the S.Covey “7 Habits of Highly Effective People”